The most difficult age for any man is between the age of 24 and 30 years, the pressure to be someone important is so immense. When you look around, everyone seems to be doing something for themselves, people seem to be living a life you only dream of.
You have applied for jobs and the results have been more disappointing than you ever imagined. Sadly this is the age when most guys lose it, the age when if not careful, one is consumed by alcohol or drugs, because the disappointments become too much and you find alternative ways to face reality.
Worse is when a few people you studied with have been lucky enough to land good jobs, soon your circle of friends gets thinner – mostly they don’t even cut you out directly but you’re real with yourself and cut yourself off. Soon you realize this is no longer your kind of crowd because the more you stay around, the greater the pressure to be someone important takes a toll on you.
To imagine that 3 or 4 years of studying and getting a degree is now reduced to either picking and dropping off letters or being sent for cheap lunch by the employees.This is when conversations about where people schooled start, you go silent for it’s no longer of any use to say you also reached University of polytechnic , it doesn’t matter you have resorted to surviving.
The worst mistake you can do during this period is to try dating there is nothing that a person going through such times can offer in terms of love. How do you have time for evening romantic talks when you are tired from walking delivering letters in offices around town? What are you going to tell your lady when she says she wants to go to Hilton for dinner? Will u say that your financial religion doesn’t allow it or what?
This is the age when you sit back and watch as the ladies you would want to be with dating or getting married to go for guys 20 years older than you. And you can’t blame them it’s only that your life seems to be progressing slower than their goals in life.
Most of the ladies you meet during this period, if you are lucky will be patient with you till you hit 29, and if by then your life is still in disarray like Arsenal’s performance in the English premier league, then my friend be prepared for a walk out.
If you can fight through this stage of life the only hard moment in your life would be when you lose your parents that’s if you are still lucky enough to have them.
This stage teaches you a lot about perseverance, about appreciating the small wins you have each day, it teaches you something about friendship, love, career growth and personal responsibility .This is always your rise or fall moment depending on the choices you make.
How you live your life in the 30’s is determined by how you handled your life in this phase.